Wednesday, July 3, 2013

I Don't Cry Often


.. but it was just so perfect

After MC passed, we, like other parents in our shoes, had to decide what to do with our son's belongings. 



As MC was a man of few possessions, finding a place for his pillow/mobile/stuffed animal collection was fairly easy.

Never well enough to come home to his room, his waiting crib made the perfect memorial. 

After placing the letters on the wall, I had decided that MC would prefer a window spot if  he ever came home. As a result, "his" crib stood under the Princess' name, and the Princess has always slept in the crib under his name...
... which has always made me happy because I like to think that he watches over her. (If you look closely you can spot her.)
Because he was a man of such high fashion, however, deciding what to do with his wardrobe was a far more difficult decision.


About a month after MC passed, I received a flyer in the mail that the church down the street was having a British Garden Party. The Princess, still convinced that she is British, insisted on going, in part because she was so anxious to try out the gorgeous frock her Aunt Avey had recently brought over from London.


We decided to go, and as we walked towards the church that morning, Duane and I remarked that we could feel MC walking "with" us.

When we arrived, we were excited to see that there was a silent auction and even more excited to see that one of the items up for bid was a handmade quilt in honor of a deceased loved one, with the quilt made from the loved one's clothing. 

Deciding that this was the perfect way to simultaneously preserve MC's dapper wardrobe and honor his spirit, Duane placed a bid (hoping, of course, that this was not too popular of an item).

After bidding, however, we noticed a sign that had been hidden under one of the bidding sheets.

ALL SILENT AUCTION PROCEEDS GO TO DR. BOB'S PEDIATRIC HOSPICE.

Unbelievable. Dr. Bob's a/k/a MC's Home. No question about it, our boy was with us. 

As it turns out, we won, the proceeds went to MC's Home, and the result was stunning. Gretchen Parry (410-566-3206) did a phenomenal job of capturing our MC perfectly, incorporating those special "MC" details that I will now be able to cherish (and hold) forever.
The front.

The back. 

All his favorite onesies and blankets.




He's even wearing his shoes!
I don't cry often, but it was just so perfect.




45 comments:

  1. Crying here in Texas with you! That is the neatest thing I have ever seen!
    Lindsey

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  2. Unbelievable and truly magical.

    I pray that you continue to find your son through the little things of life. In pursuit of magic :)

    Lots of love to little princess..

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  3. That is SO cool. I know you will enjoy it.

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  4. That's just beautiful and more than words can express! MC is definitely with you.

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  5. That is perfect - what a wonderful keepsake! Your little superhero is definitely flying around up there watching out after his family and sending little messages to let you know how much he loves you!!

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  6. This made me cry too! It really is perfect.God bless you and your family. Love Coco

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  7. Oh Bernadette, what a lovely set of circumstances and what a spectacular result. Gretchen is both artist and quilt maker. This beautiful quilt makes my heart soar, so I can only imagine how it uplifts you. X Bridg

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  8. Oh this made me happy...such a perfect sign that MC/Hayden is with you and always will be. Beautiful quilt...!

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  9. This is gorgeous and such a treasure.

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  10. What a marvellous post....and so happy that MC is still walking along side with you.....such a beautiful quilt

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  11. Just amazing... Absolutely the best way to deal with those possessions and keep them with you as a forever quilt. Love that MC is still with you. Hugs xxx

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  12. What a beautiful and perfect way to remember the dapper MC. Much love, Janet xo

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  13. What an amazing and beautiful quilt. Such a wonderful keepsake for your family to cherish your gorgeous boy.

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  14. Impossible to comment through my tears. :)

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  15. Tearing up here, too. This is beautiful, and such a perfect reflection of your special boy.

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  16. Crying here too... It truly was so perfect!

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  17. What a special quilt. I am a believer that when a loved one leaves their earthly body they stay close to watch over their family. He, as you all have experienced, is always with you, smiling at his sister's inquisitiveness, staying close to his mom & dad because he knows how much you love him. The quilt is a wonderful tribute to a very special son. All our love.

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  18. Made me cry too. How absolutely beautiful.

    Mo

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  19. She is brilliant! I have seen them done before but this one is the best I have seen by far! What a beautiful way to honor him and be close to him.

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  20. Crying with you from here in London. A beautiful way to keep hold of his clothes and blankets. Stunning. Love SR xxxxx

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  21. There is no words to express my feeling, it truly was so perfect!
    Vic xxxx

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  22. Ooooooh, how perfect! And wonderful of you to share it with all of us who feel like we were along for his/your journey. Sometimes, the way that things work out just seem super-natural. What if you hadn't walked down the street that day? Hayden is smiling.

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  23. I absolutely LOVE this idea. It is beautiful and my eyes were filled with tears. Love to you!

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  24. That is just so beautiful. You can wrap yourself in the warmth of memories of MC forever. Wow.

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  25. How very perfect! What a beautiful gift to treasure forever. MC was definitely with you.

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  26. Absolutely perfect. I love this.

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  27. What a beautiful quilt, love it. Thinking of you often xxx

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  28. I would love to find someone who did this in Australia it is so perfect . .... Mc had the best wardrobe!!

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  29. This is an amazingly awesome idea!

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  30. Wow...I have always planned to do this with my kids' first year clothes (well, plan to have it done because I can't sew). THIS is perfect and made me cry as well. It's a beautiful quilt!! How special. And I love that Scarlett sleeps in Hayden's crib. :) I have a boy and a girl and my boy's blankie is one that was given to my daughter as a baby. My girl's blankie is one that was given to my son. They each know they don't really belong to them, but seem to find comfort in the fact that they are snuggly with something of their sibling's.

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  31. How beautiful...I am speechless...Been thinking about you B...glad to hear you all are doing well...we have got to get together sometime this year!! Tell Avey hi for me when you talk to her again!

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  32. wow that quilt is gorgeous! I have thought about doing that with some of things that are my daughters, that is if I don't have another girl who can wear all her dresses I had bought her.

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  33. Tearing up reading this post. The blanket is beautiful. S

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  34. What a fantastic idea! It's perfect in every way!

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  35. How sweet does Scarlett look? I just love her and yes looks very British.

    I do not cry often but your posts always bring tears to my eyes such is the emotional connection. Think of you often and miss you loads.

    Avey

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  36. Here from ICLW so I don't know the whole story, but what beautiful children.. And what an amazing tribute for your son. I love the bow tie and suspenders he wore, and that his monkey is wearing his shoes... All the details are so perfect.

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  37. That idea of her sleeping under the sign that says his name is so incredibly beautiful.

    I have been visiting you off and on, and I think MC will be your angel for life.

    xo

    #6

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  38. When i first read 'quilt made out of clothes' i had a horrible image of some gaudy patch work; but this is beautiful! I'm so glad you have such a beautiful thing to remember your son :)

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  39. Wow, that's an amazing quilt and MC really was with you all that day! I'm so glad you were able to find someone that could help make a worthy tribute to your son.

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  40. i'm bawling.
    so, so sweet. <3

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