This past week, I've come across several facebook postings applauding this ad:
I thought a lot about that Nordstroms Family as we sat in our hospital discharge meeting yesterday. As I mentioned last post, Our Family has made the difficult decision to discharge MC to a pediatric hospice home.
It's impossible to put into words how traumatic a decision this was-- and will continue to be for the rest of our lives-- other than to say that we are not the Nordstroms Family.
While the Nordstroms Family has apparently been gifted with both Time and Celebration, Our Family has not.
Our Family has been instructed that we must choose between the two, and that while under no circumstances can we have both, there is a possibility that should we choose one, we could end up with neither.
I've been told many times that there is no wrong answer, but, in fact, it would be far more fitting to say that there is no right answer.
I have been told that we could choose Time, and be given a greater possibility of being present for future holidays to come, however, should we choose Time, we will not be allowed to celebrate. We will not be allowed to be together as a family. We will not be allowed to exist in a comforting environment. We will not be allowed to Live, even though we are present. I have also been told that should we choose Time, this does not mean that we will be given it.
I have been told, that, in the alternative, we could choose to Celebrate. With this decision, we could be together as family, we could exist in a comforting environment and we could not only be present for each other, but we could in fact Live. If, however, we choose to Celebrate, we must agree to relinquish our Time.
Last week we made the decision to Celebrate. Yesterday we necessarily confirmed that decision by putting it into writing. Tomorrow I will put up our Christmas tree. On Monday we will move MC to his new home.
I love Our Family and I wouldn't trade it for the world, but it's days like Today that I am left wondering what life would have been like... if only we'd gotten to be the Nordstroms.