Friday, November 30, 2012

Sleeping With a New Man

He's cuter, younger, and best of all, requires considerably less bed space than the old one...
My new roomie, MC
It's been 10 days since MC moved into his new home, and I do believe that he has finally "settled" in. True to his character, he spent the first few days charming the staff with his dashing good looks before proving to his new friends all that he is capable of-- middle of the night respiratory distress, inexplicable desats, unpredictable neurological activity-- the usual unusual MCisms.
MC's custom built house to destimulate him when he's not feeling well. 
The physical act of leaving the hospital (a mere 10 minutes away) was much harder than I  had anticipated. What I'd failed to realize is that the hospital had, unknowingly, become our H-O-M-E... because the hospital staff had become our family.

On the verge of tears already, I was unable to say a proper goodbye to anyone.

Fortunately, since arriving at our new H-O-M-E, we have not had to swap one family for the next. Our hospital family has made a point of letting us know that we are not far from their thoughts. Phone calls, visits and the most delicious Thanksgiving feast delivered to our door have provided us with much comfort as we stumble along yet another road less traveled.
Post-turkey twin nap
The anxiety of it all hit me the night before our move as I surrealy drug out The Suitcase that's been around the world. The Box #1 label etched in chalk across its front pocket was still fresh from my most recent trip.

I must have stared at that Suitcase for hours.

I was nowhere closer to knowing what to pack for an indefinite stay in Baltimore with my child in a hospice home than I had been to knowing what to pack for an indefinite stay in New Delhi with both my children in the NICU or a subsequent indefinite departure from New Delhi to America with my children aboard a med-evac plane. 

It seems that the author of What to Expect the First Year forgot to add a chapter on any of the above...

Unlike last time, I road in the ambulance. Not because I thought MC was scared, but rather, because I knew I was. 

I know that previously I had said that there was no right decision. I was wrong. The move was right, and MC reminds us of this every single day.

We've said it over and over again, MC is very very happy here. For the first time ever, he sleeps at night. He gains weight, and most importantly, he just looks so incredibly comfortable.


For the time being, I'm living with MC, and Princess and Daddy are holding down the fort at home. I receive plenty of reassuring videos like the one below, letting me know that everyone is "secure," and that, most importantly, in the midst of all this turmoil, Thursday night football watching has not been sacrificed.



We are so thankful to have found MC a new H-O-M-E where we can continue to Celebrate every day.
Happy 8 months to our Princess and MC.






27 comments:

  1. Hayden is just wonderful so handsome xx

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  2. Oh Bernadette, I'm so happy to read that MC has been able to settle in. You and yours are never far from my mind. Here's to many more days that you are able to Celebrate as a family!

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  3. Love that you 4 can be together and that you say MC is happiest in this home surrounded by love for all of you.
    Thank you for each and every updating post. May the love and caring from around the world fill your hours and support you all.
    Old Ca grama

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  4. I am so happy that Hayden can now rest and finally sleep in the peace of his new home! That is so comforting. He looks stronger every new post. The babies are so lucky to have such loving and caring parents as you and Duane are. Blessed be your family!

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  5. I love your news. I have been SO worried since it was a while since your last post. Biggest hugs from Sweden!

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  6. I'm so glad to read that you have settled into your new home with your little boy and that you both are comfortable. I wish your entire family the best.

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  7. So glad you are settled in and that Hayden is happy. Love and huge warm hugs Anna x

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  8. This is such a happy up-date. Came home from work to find this, thanks for the evening smile. Happiness, and love sent from our family to yours. :)

    Leslie

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  9. hayden looks so good... he's got a great color in his master cheeks, and possibly a little chubby as well?

    every day is a miracle, for all of us.

    i am so glad that he can wake up and see his mama. and so glad that he can hang with sis. and dad. he looks great.

    you did the right thing. you know it! every day is a miracle, a chance. every second. be with him... load up on seconds, minutes, days... you are doing just the right thing and you can see it in the pictures.

    much love to you.

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  10. I'm so glad to see the update (I was worried), and to see how much happier Hayden (and you) look! Enjoy every minute of the celebration.

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  11. I'm so glad to hear that things are going well. Enjoy every minute of the celebration!

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  12. Aww,Hayden looks so cute, comfy and settled and you all look great!!Scarlett has grown soo much and she is beautiful!! Enjoy all these moments and many more..they are priceless.Hugs to you all!!
    kathy and david

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  13. Happy you can finally stay with Hayden and the whole family can be together! Hayden looks so good and so happy.

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  14. What a handsome bed fellow! So happy to hear that he's happy.

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  15. I, too, was so glad to read that Hayden is more comfortable and sleeping. And Princess is such a great sister. You guys look great in that last photo. Big hugs.

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  16. Yay, Yahoo, Yippee!! So great to hear that Hayden is doing so good, he looks fantastic! It is also so great to see the whole family so happy!

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  17. Warms my heart to hear that he (and the family) is doing well and happy!

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  18. Snarky title for your post! And such a lovely affair you all have going on. :)

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  19. Love the family photo at the end! The happy smiles of a beautiful family. Sending love to you all from Philly!

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  20. Both your men are handsome. I, too, would opt for the one who doesn't hog the linen (although MC does seem mighty fond of the limelight... Even his 'cubby' is Bollywood). Glad to hear your family is thriving at your new digs. x Bridg

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  21. Such a strong special mumma you are!
    Love to you
    Pen x

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  22. The "Johnny Jumper" is the best invention ever!!! That's what the unofficial name of the "jumper thingie" was in our house.
    Hayden does look more comfortable in his new pad, and I like his little "relaxa hut", many of us grown-ups could use one of those too!
    xo, Kim

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  23. How wonderful he looks! Glad he is responding well. Hopefully you can get some Skype time in with Princess and Daddy.

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  24. As always, I am in awe of your courage and love for your family. A million hugs to your darling ones.

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  25. Jealous of MCs chill out hut too! It definitely looks like this was the best move from the contentment on everyone's faces - even Mr Bunny. Big hug.

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  26. Sory I didn't get to comment earlier. I am so happy for you guys that this was the right move! I hope it relieves some of the stress you've all been under and that things continue to go well.

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  27. Having a best beloved be with you all the time is always the finest! And having all the other beloved ones come regularly is super fine. No wonder MC is eating and growing.
    Love and prayers for you all, thinking of you constantly.
    OCG

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