So as we approach the two affectionately dubbed
Princess
and the
Cheeks'
four month birthday, we have come to the conclusion that we need to start formulating a "future" plan... whether Hayden is ready or not.
Unfortunately, a full scale medical evacuation is not in the cards, as we could order all the "cards" we want and still not come close to funding it. Which leaves us with the following options:
1. Fly Hayden home on a commercial flight with a doctor and oxygen support.
2. Take up residence in India, learn to drive on the right side of the road and fill out a job application with Rahul.
3. Call Oprah.
Unfortunately, my left side road driving is nothing to write home about which leaves me to think that my right side road driving would be downright scary. And as for Oprah? eh-- the whole surrogacy in India thing is so 6 years ago.
...which leaves us with Option Number One.
And at first glance, I have to say that it sounds pretty darn simple. Find a doctor, secure some oxygen and off we go. But like everything about our journey thusfar, it's just a little bit more complicated than appears.
The issues filling my head during the time of day which I used to refer to as "sleep time" are-- supplementation of airport oxygen during a layover in a foreign country, transport of Hayden from the arrival state to our state and admission to [what will likely have to be a pediatrics unit-- not a NICU] upon same, securing seats on a flight in August which it appears to be the month that all of India migrates to the U.S., and how to keep costs "affordable"-- and trust me, at this point in our journey, I use that word very very loosely.
Nevertheless, I am working to come up with some creative solutions-- because hey, that's what us IPs do best-- and meanwhile, soaking up my remaining days in India with the world's two most amazing children (as well as a handful of some really amazing IPs).
In the meantime, The Cheeks is hanging out on 30% oxygen and the Princess, well, she continues to hold court everywhere we go...
The Cheeks asked that I show you his latest trick in real time.
Princess
and the
Cheeks'
four month birthday, we have come to the conclusion that we need to start formulating a "future" plan... whether Hayden is ready or not.
Unfortunately, a full scale medical evacuation is not in the cards, as we could order all the "cards" we want and still not come close to funding it. Which leaves us with the following options:
1. Fly Hayden home on a commercial flight with a doctor and oxygen support.
2. Take up residence in India, learn to drive on the right side of the road and fill out a job application with Rahul.
3. Call Oprah.
Unfortunately, my left side road driving is nothing to write home about which leaves me to think that my right side road driving would be downright scary. And as for Oprah? eh-- the whole surrogacy in India thing is so 6 years ago.
...which leaves us with Option Number One.
And at first glance, I have to say that it sounds pretty darn simple. Find a doctor, secure some oxygen and off we go. But like everything about our journey thusfar, it's just a little bit more complicated than appears.
The issues filling my head during the time of day which I used to refer to as "sleep time" are-- supplementation of airport oxygen during a layover in a foreign country, transport of Hayden from the arrival state to our state and admission to [what will likely have to be a pediatrics unit-- not a NICU] upon same, securing seats on a flight in August which it appears to be the month that all of India migrates to the U.S., and how to keep costs "affordable"-- and trust me, at this point in our journey, I use that word very very loosely.
Nevertheless, I am working to come up with some creative solutions-- because hey, that's what us IPs do best-- and meanwhile, soaking up my remaining days in India with the world's two most amazing children (as well as a handful of some really amazing IPs).
In the meantime, The Cheeks is hanging out on 30% oxygen and the Princess, well, she continues to hold court everywhere we go...
The Cheeks asked that I show you his latest trick in real time.
| Hayden had a name tag on his back today. A little added security, I guess, should he come up with an exit plan of his own. |
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| Hey Scarlett, my belly is bigger than yours! |
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| Oh, yeah? Says who? I'm the big sister and don't you forget it. |





I just want to say again how impressive you are and hope that option 1 can soon become a reality. Best wishes and asking Ganesh, Mother Mary and the universe to help make it a reality! Take care!
ReplyDeleteThank you for the wishes! And yes, we are praying to anything and everything these days:)
DeleteWell you have prayers from California!! I read something today that I thought was lovely, when the sun goes down the stars come out! May your way home be blessed!
DeletePrayers for a safe and boring trip home with your amazing babies. Hope everything works out. Can you take extra oxygen containers on the plane to be switch out when you have a layover?
ReplyDeleteThanks, Joann! We are looking at that as an option, but also, Air India has a direct to NY. Makes me nervous because of the strike issues they have and the resulting cancelled flights, but I think it's our best option at the moment.
DeleteOne of my kids loves a painting and a lamp too. Kids love the craziest things!
ReplyDeleteso nice to see my lovely babies. i have had to re register because of you guys. How is mummy Scarlett and Hayden doing?you never seize to amaze me B. continue to stay strong and it will be well IJN.x
ReplyDeleteAwww, I am always thinking of you! Hope your little princess is doing well. Miss you bunches! xo
DeleteBTW loving that big sister picture of S
ReplyDeleteAh yes, this girl knows her role in the family!
DeleteI'm praying that this strategy comes together soon for you! I can't imagine just how anxious you are to get back to Duane, your family, your home, and the rest of your life. You and the family continue to be in our thoughts and prayers! Best wishes!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Allie. Been thinking of you. Praying for some good news from you shortly! xo
DeleteScarlett looks at it and knows she is with her bestest mommy in the whole world. Hayden so much needs to come play with you two and his daddy.
ReplyDeleteI hope the embassy is helpful, airlines cooperative. Maybe someone reading your blog would know someone in the foreign country where your flight needs to stop. The immensity of the costs involved only come into proportion when looked at against the non-financial joys of having your family together. I do hope you will not drop off this blog on getting home. I shall want to know how you all are doing for a long haul. Heavens grace smile on your needs and know you are thought of around the world.
Hey Bernadette, Your little babies are looking gorgeous. You know what I wish for you? That a US paedaetrician just happens to be holidaying in Delhi India and maybe you might bump into them at the Svelte .....and then fate happens and doesnt cost you those $$$$ to get Hayden home. However if that doesnt work your plan/option no.1 seems like a great idea.
ReplyDeleteHello, I've been reading about your journey for a while now but never commented. I have b/g twins and my son spent a long time in the hospital and also flew from an Asian country to the US on oxygen. I was wondering if you know how what flow Hayden is on, ie how many liters? Because our doctor would only let us fly when DS came off O2..in order to compensate for the drop in oxygen at altitude, he had to be on 2 liters for the flight. I'm not sure you can go much higher than 2L or 3L because too high a flowrate can hurt an infant's nose. What are the Drs saying about Hayden?
ReplyDeleteGood good luck with option 1. I hope and pray that the ball gets rolling soon. There must be a doctor somewhere willing to do it out of the kindness of his/her heart surely?
ReplyDeleteSR x
Hello B,
ReplyDeleteBelieve us we do in no way underestimate the complex logistics involoved in getting Hayden home safely, however, if anyone can do it you can. Scarlett and Hayden are looking great and you!
Wish we could do something to help.
Thinking of you.
Sounds like a plan!!!! Praying for you guys!! It is time to come home!!! Yay!! I know scary, but still...yay!! Tell princess and cheeks they are looking good!!
ReplyDeleteMost beautiful babies....and you look fantastic!! You will have to share your secrets!! We have our fingers crossed that Option #1 comes together quickly and you guys get home safe and sound really soon!!
ReplyDeleteJust wonderful piccies!! I do hope you get home soon!!
ReplyDeleteGuess what we are arriving on 25th july finally going to meet the girls so excited!! xxx
Heart goes out to you, but totally understand the need for a plan. You are so very amazing.
ReplyDeleteLoved the video of Hayden. He is so alert!
Both babies are so adorable! Good luck with the plan, many positive thoughts for a safe journey home very soon.
ReplyDeleteHow about if we were to secure an ambulette from your arrival state to your destination state? We can work on seeing if that is a possibility from here, if you wish. Xxxxxx Aunt Elaine
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