So it hasn't been Master Hayden's best weekend. (I really love that they refer to him as "Master" Hayden. It makes him sound so distinguished. Think I'm going to keep the title.)
His CRP (C-reactive protein which can indicate an infection) was 23 (this is high) as of yesterday. The doctors have done some blood cultures to see if he has a bacterial infection. We'll know the results tomorrow. In the meantime, he is back on high flow oxygen, Lasix (diuretic for his breathing), IV antibiotics, caffeine, feeding tube... you know, the usual spiel.
As I've now spent a month and a half as a parent of two NICU residents, these "incidents" tend to evoke less of a reaction than previously; nevertheless, it is incredibly frustrating to think that we are right back where we were 3 whole weeks ago...
Master Hayden:
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| Concerned about the effect of the lack of oxygen on his pallor, Hayden siphons some rays from his roommate's tanning bed. |
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| A rare moment of rest for this guy. Perhaps he should try it more often, maybe then he would require less oxygen?!? |
The time apart was taking its toll, and I decided that it was time to regroup and channel that initial excitement that propelled us through April at what seemed like lightening speed.
I realized that after a month and a half in Delhi, I had become too comfortable. I was no longer appreciating the magic of this experience.
Need I remind myself that after four agonizing years, I am the mother of not one, but two beautiful children? And that we are truly privileged to be spending our first three months together in breathtaking India?
I should be sopping up every second of this time and enjoying it for what it is.
India is an incredibly spiritual place, and I decided that the only way to recapture this magic was to visit a holy place with my Scarlett.
Rather than go the obvious route and make a visit to a temple, I decided that I wanted to take Scarlett to a Christian church. As it turns out, it was the perfect choice.
I decided on the Cathedral Church of the Redemption. I had read online that the English service was at 8 a.m., so we headed out around 7:15. It was the first time I had been out in Delhi at this time of day. Delhi is a late riser, and I was stunned by the tranquil state of the streets. It was absolutely breathtaking. No horns, no beggars, no traffic... just peace.
As it turns out, the service times advertised were incorrect (no surprise, we're in India, right?), and the service when we arrived was being conducted in Malayalam, a language spoken in South India.
As a result, it was that much more beautiful.
As I sat with my Scarlett in this austere building from the British reign, the sun rising against our backs, windmill fans humming above the pews, surrounded by our colorful Indian neighbors who were all too eager to have a peek at her, I once again felt the magic of this journey.
It is a feeling that I am determined not to let go of as I enjoy each and every one of my remaining days in Delhi.
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| A true child of India, my Scarlett is not an early riser. |
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| An early morning game of cricket. |
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| Finding peace. |
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| One for Hayden, one for Scarlett and one for our ever growing surro family. |
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| Scarlett upped her feeds to 120 mls. I now know where it's all going. |
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| 11 days home and Scarlett has become a total "poolie." |
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| Backyard photo shoot. (If you saw our front yard, you'd understand why.) |
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| Scarlett stakes her claim. (The good ones tend to go quick.) |














Sending lots of good thoughts your way -- go, Hayden, go!
ReplyDeleteBy the way, did you know that Malayalam is a palindrome?
Btw, did you know that we are going to be best friends when you get here? I love that you pointed that out!
DeleteThis interaction made me smile. So happy you guys are going to meet...because I was super bummed to miss you guys in DC for baby pick-up! You guys are going to get along beautifully!! I want photos!!
DeleteLove your perspectiveson India, Bernadette!
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Good for you Bernadette !
ReplyDeleteLove the photos. It is hard to not get caught up in getting home so I am so pleased you have found the beauty of India once again. I can't believe Scarlett is drinking 120mls! My girls didn't drink that until 5 months of age. You go Scarlett. Sending our prayers to Hayden. x
ReplyDeleteOh I'm so happy you two had a good weekend, good for you to recapture that magic which I can imagine is so easy to lose sight of. You have come so far, its hard to see that clearly when you're in the middle but think where you were in January? Keep going we're all rooting for you & your gorgeous family :)
ReplyDeletePraying for Hayden. Praying for you and your family always.
ReplyDeleteThank you for being a strong, beautiful and inspiring woman and mother, Bernadette.
Thank you for your thoughtful words and prayers. And for sharing the magic of remaining faithful and never losing hope.
Thank you for the encouragement and beautiful words :*)
So much love to you
Xoxox
Maria
Oh, little Hayden, get well soon - and grow!!
ReplyDeleteI SOO miss India when I see these pictures. Really, really miss it! Hugs!
You are so strong Bernadette and I love the way you refocus yourself. You are an outstanding human being and mummy! Hayden will get there....he is just testing mummy and daddy's patience! Love the photo of Scarlett with Hari and comment that she is staking her claim! In Victoria where I live they are actively promoting on radio that there is a sever man drought with only 86,000 men for 1.3 billion women......maybe Scarlett instictively knows that!!
ReplyDeleteThis is such a joyous post. I know how hard it is to remember that India is a special place full of love and beauty. The early morning is certainly the best time to find that.
ReplyDeleteI hope you find more things to do around delhi in the early morning.
I think you will leave India with the same feeling you had the first time you came.
Sending you light and love.
We have followed your journey since last September and take it from an outsider looking in...you have truly come such a long way and achieved so much! You only have to look down to your arms and find your little ones beautiful faces to know this!!!
ReplyDeleteI never saw the beauty in India for the week we were there in January as I was so sick and stuck in bed the whole time...each day is a gift and what a place to celebrate it!
Look after yourself and we pray for Hayden to join you and Scarlett very soon!
Praying for you guys!! I look so forward to your posts each day!! I will be there soon! You will have to take me to all of the happening spots, lol!!! Hang in there!!
ReplyDeleteahh love your pictures, wishing Master Hayden a very speedy recovery so he can join Miss Scarlett poolside x
ReplyDeleteI love the last picture. And once again you amaze me with your poise and positive attitude dealing with such a difficult situation.
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