So what does one do when they are living in India, coping with the stress of all things Indian, two preemies in the NICU, never ending bills and a family and husband who are 7000+ miles away?
Well if they're as lucky as me, they lean on their friends.
Since arriving in Delhi, I have been fortunate enough to form some truly amazing friendships with people from all around the world. Different countries, different ages, different family compositions, but all with the same goal-- to become parents.
Tonight, 18 of us gathered for dinner at TGIFridays. 18! One of my new friends asked how I "found" all these people. To be honest, we are actually fairly easy to spot. Single women alone in India, anyone carrying a few day old baby or often bab(ies), the same guy/gal sitting at the pool... for the 14th day in a row-- just a few clues that one has spotted a bona fide SCIer.
What's really incredible, however, is to listen to the stories that brought each one of us to Delhi. My new friends are the most strong, resilient and creative individuals I have ever met. To hear the obstacles they have overcome to embark on this journey will take your breath away.
I am so proud to have acquired these new friendships-- long-lasting friendships that will surely survive our short stays in India. (Dear Avey, I use the word "short" loosely.)
and now for the update...
As the babies progress, it's of course inevitable that we will have some setbacks. Yesterday, both babies has lost weight and Hayden was intermittently using the C-Pap with no oxygen.
It was fascinating for me to hold some of the other recently born babies last night. How different it was to not be repetitively "extending the neck" for an unrestricted airway, scratching feet to remind the baby to breathe and constantly checking to ensure the baby was not in distress. I am certainly looking forward to this day with my own children.
Below are a few pictures (starting with the most exciting first)!
|An elephant passes us in traffic. I believe this says a lot about the speed at which traffic often moves in India.|
|Hayden requested an eye mask for his daytime naps.|
|Scarlett gives me a knowing smile not to worry, she's got this bottle thing under control.|